Be an adult: You’re free to disagree with others, but express disagreement like you’re an adult. That means no cussing, no snide comments, no trying to dunk on people, etc. Argue the point made, don’t attack the person.
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Don’t be a bigot: No racism, sexism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, ethnocentrism, religious intolerance, etc.
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No agenda pushing, conspiracy talk, or toxic masculinity: No alt-right, anti-vax, other disinformation, red pill, purple pill, Andrew Tate or people similar to him, MGTOW, INCEL, toxic masculinity, PUA, gender war, gender hate, or other kinds of hate allowed. Posting such content will get you instantly banned.
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Relationships/dating questions MUST be flaired as such: Posts relating to relationship & dating MUST be flaired “Relationships/dating”. All relationship/dating questions will be subject to moderator approval. If you see a “Relationships/dating” flaired post on the sub, it has been vetted by the mods.
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Medical, legal, and financial EXPERIENCES – not advice – are permitted: Questions seeking medical & legal EXPERIENCES are welcome, but we’re not equipped to provide professional ADVICE. Let's leave that to the professionals.
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No politics: ~~We may institute a waiver of this rule one day per week. Stay tuned.~~
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No meta discussions: If you want to talk about how the sub is being run, please send a modmail.
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Don't try to bypass the short posts rule: We put those requirements in the Automod because we want quality discussion at r/AskMenOver30. Quick hit posts don't serve that purpose.
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No clearly AI-generated posts: AI-generated post
Works well
A detailed question about career transitions or life direction that invites supportive stories from other men over 30.
A personal experience about a financial decision framed as a story, not as a request for professional advice.
A relationship question flaired "Relationships/dating" and written with enough detail to clear the short posts filter.
Avoid
Do not cuss or attack people, since the rule named "Be an adult" forbids it.
Do not push any agenda or talk about conspiracies, since the rule named "No agenda pushing, conspiracy talk, or toxic masculinity" will get you banned.
Do not post politics, since the rule named "No politics" removes it.
Do not post short quick hit posts, since the rule named "Don't try to bypass the short posts rule" filters them out.
Do not post clearly AI generated content, since the rule named "No clearly AI-generated posts" bans it.
Do not forget the required flair on relationship or dating questions, since the rule named "Relationships/dating questions MUST be flaired as such" removes unflaired posts.
What r/AskMenOver30 Is For
This community is a place for supportive and friendly conversations relevant to men over 30. The rules ask you to be an adult, avoid bigotry, and keep the focus on quality discussion rather than quick hits or agenda pushing.
Rules That Matter Before Posting
The rules that decide whether your post survives are "Be an adult", "No agenda pushing, conspiracy talk, or toxic masculinity", "Relationships/dating questions MUST be flaired as such", "Medical, legal, and financial EXPERIENCES, not advice, are permitted", "No politics", "Don't try to bypass the short posts rule", and "No clearly AI-generated posts". These rules shape every post that makes it through. The rule "Medical, legal, and financial EXPERIENCES, not advice, are permitted" matters because it tells you to frame your question around experiences, not professional advice. The rule "Relationships/dating questions MUST be flaired as such" matters because it requires moderator approval before those posts go live.
What To Post
A good post here is a detailed question that invites supportive conversation among men over 30. If your topic touches relationships or dating, you must flair it "Relationships/dating" and wait for moderator approval. If your topic touches medical, legal, or financial matters, frame it around personal experiences, not professional advice. Write enough substance to clear the short posts filter, and keep your tone civil and adult.
What To Avoid
Avoid cussing, snide comments, or trying to dunk on people, since the rule "Be an adult" forbids that. Avoid any bigotry, including racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, and religious intolerance, since the rule "Don't be a bigot" bans it. Avoid agenda pushing, conspiracy talk, toxic masculinity, red pill content, or gender war posts, since the rule "No agenda pushing, conspiracy talk, or toxic masculinity" will get you instantly banned. Avoid politics entirely, since the rule "No politics" removes it. Avoid short quick hit posts, since the rule "Don't try to bypass the short posts rule" filters them. Avoid AI generated content, since the rule "No clearly AI-generated posts" bans it. Avoid posting relationship or dating questions without the required flair, since the rule "Relationships/dating questions MUST be flaired as such" removes unflaired posts.
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Can I post a question about relationships or dating?
Yes, the rule named "Relationships/dating questions MUST be flaired as such" says all relationship and dating questions must be flaired "Relationships/dating" and will be subject to moderator approval.
Can I ask for medical, legal, or financial advice?
The rule named "Medical, legal, and financial EXPERIENCES, not advice, are permitted" says questions seeking experiences are welcome but the community is not equipped to provide professional advice.
Can I use AI to write my post?
No, the rule named "No clearly AI-generated posts" bans that content.