r/adhdwomen rules, stats, and what to post

This is a support space for women living with ADHD. People come here to talk about their daily lives with the condition and to find support from others who get it. The community is LGBTQ+ positive and explicitly welcomes trans women, non-binary, agender, and genderqueer folks. Trans men can engage based on their own comfort level. Cisgender men cannot post or comment here, though male family members seeking advice about a daughter or relative with ADHD can sometimes join with moderator permission. If you want to reach the moderators, the description says to send a modmail instead of messaging them directly.

The first gate is “In order to post or comment here, you must not identify primarily as a cisgender man.”, so if that describes you, this is not your community to post in, and male family members only get in with mod permission. The second gate is “Posts and comments must involve ADHD.”, which means anything you write has to connect to ADHD in a real way. For anyone with something to promote, “Do not advertise products or solicit research participants.” is the hard stop, because it covers ads, referrals, affiliate codes, stealth marketing, and anything you or someone you know has a stake in. “No AI content.” bans ChatGPT output and AI images of any kind, so do not draft your post with a chatbot. “Discussions must be civil and criticism must be useful and constructive.” sets the tone for how you talk to people. “This forum isn't a substitute for professional medical/mental health advice, treatment, or diagnosis” and “This forum will not facilitate requests for legal, insurance, or procedural advice.” limit what kinds of advice threads you can start. “Posts about NSFW topics (like sex and libido) must be flaired NSFW or are subject to removal” matters if your topic drifts that way.

For a founder, the honest answer is that this community is not a place to market anything, so a good post here is a genuine contribution with no product attached. Share your own experience with ADHD in a way that connects to the topic, ask a real question you actually want answered, or offer peer support based on what you have lived through. If you have ADHD yourself and you are building something because of it, you can talk about the problem you face, just do not turn the post into a pitch for your solution. Keep everything clearly related to ADHD, write it yourself rather than with AI tools, and stay warm and constructive in how you talk to people.

Do not advertise products or solicit anything, because “Do not advertise products or solicit research participants.” covers anything you have a stake in, including referral links, affiliate codes, stealth marketing, and crossposting from subs you moderate. Do not post anything written by ChatGPT or any AI images, because “No AI content.” bans that outright. Do not post off topic content, because “Posts and comments must involve ADHD.” requires a real ADHD connection. Do not disparage anyone's symptoms or treatment and do not encourage illegal or improper drug use, because “Do not disparage other users' symptoms & treatment or encourage illegal and/or improper use of drugs” covers that. Do not ask for medical, legal, insurance, or procedural advice, because “This forum isn't a substitute for professional medical/mental health advice, treatment, or diagnosis” and “This forum will not facilitate requests for legal, insurance, or procedural advice.” rule those out. Do not post about self harm, suicide, or acute crises, because “Discussions on self-harm, suicide, and/or acute/serious medical/mental health crises aren't allowed” sends those to real crisis resources. Do not crosspost to other communities, because “Please do not crosspost to other communities.” protects members from drama subs. Do not post about sex or libido without the NSFW flair, because “Posts about NSFW topics (like sex and libido) must be flaired NSFW or are subject to removal” requires it. And do not be uncivil, because “Discussions must be civil and criticism must be useful and constructive.” bans name calling, harassment, and stirring up drama.

The rule that stands out to me is the outright ban on AI content, including anything written with ChatGPT. That tells me the people here have been burned by canned, impersonal posts, and it should push any founder to write in their own voice or not at all. I also respect how clearly the community defines who it is for, right down to a link explaining the policy on men participating. My honest read is that this is one of those rooms where the only respectful move is to show up as a person, not as a marketer.